Born
and raised in England, Sarah
Holdstock would sometimes look at
family photos and think she was
in the wrong picture.
She
never thought someone in
Frederick County would offer her
the link she needed to appear in
the right one.
After
years of searching, Sarah, 42,
found her birth family last
summer, including her aunt, Ruth
Taylor, who lives off Senseny
Road.

Frederick
County resident Ruth
Taylor and her niece,
Sarah Holdstock, began
e-mailing last summer
after Sarah discovered
her biological American
family. Ruths
brother, Bill Hartman,
never told his family he
fathered a child while
stationed in England in
the 1960s.
(Photo Jeff Taylor) |
A
picture taken this summer
thousands of miles from England
finally puts Sarahs face in
pictures with people who share
her features.
Before
I heard from Sarah, I didnt
know I had a niece in
England, Ruth said. I
think its wonderful, and
Im so glad she found
us.
Sarah
was born on May 3, 1961, in
Bedford, England. Her father was
Ruths brother, Bill
Hartman, a member of the U.S. Air
Force stationed near Bedford. Her
mother was Mary Carter of
Bedford.
Bill
and Mary, both 24 at the time,
learned their affair led to a
pregnancy. Unmarried, Mary said
she would put the child up for
adoption, and Bill returned to
the States.
Bill
never said anything about having
a child in England, Ruth
said. I believe
Sarahs mother might have
first changed her mind about the
adoption, because I remember my
mother talking about a lady from
England writing her and asking
for money to come to the United
States. I dont remember if
she spoke to Bill about this or
if he told her what it was about
or if she wrote back.
Mary
did in fact place Sarah up for
adoption, and her adoptive
parents provided a loving home,
Sarah wrote in an e-mail from her
home in Isle of Wight, on the
southern coast of England.
But
she was curious about her birth
parents, and began searching for
her identity when she was 18.
She
contacted the countrys
adoption society and learned her
mothers name and her age at
Sarahs birth. She also
learned that Mary, who died at 32
of a brain tumor, also had a
4-year-old daughter.
All
the adoption society would tell
Sarah about her father was he was
in the U.S. Air Force, came from
Virginia or West Virginia, and
was 24 when she was born.
They
refused to give Sarah his name,
she said.
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Bill
Hartman (below)
ultimately had three
daughters. Sarah (above,
right photo, from left)
met Beverly Jo and Melody
during a reunion last
summer.
(Photos Courtesy of Ruth
Taylor) |
Sarah
continued to try to get more
information about her father, but
had no luck.
Sarah
was married and had three
children when her luck changed
six years ago.
She
found out she could have copies
of all the papers pertaining to
her birth. I found sadly
that my mum had died, Sarah
said.
Eventually,
she also learned the identity of
her father.
I
had a phone call telling me the
information had been sent to the
local social services
childrens department and
that I could go in on May 3,
2002, which was my 41st birthday,
and get the rest of the
information about my
father, she said.
After
she learned Bills name,
Sarah contacted Trans Atlantic
Childrens Enterprise, a
non-profit group designed to help
GI babies find their fathers.
They
pointed me in the right direction
and told me how to apply for his
military records, Sarah
said. Thats when I
found out that he was dead,
too.
Bill,
who lived in Winchester in the
1970s, was 51 when he died in
1988 in Las Vegas.
Sarah
had already met members of her
mothers family, including
her half-sister in England. She
had learned that her mother was a
gifted seamstress. Now she wanted
to meet her fathers family.
I
obtained Bills death
certificate and his obits,
she said. I started making
calls to his Hartmans in the
United States. I wrote and called
lots of Hartmans before I found
his family.
One
of Sarahs messages landed
in Ruths e-mail box last
February. Ruth replied and told
Sarah she was Bill Hartmans
sister. Ruth also told Sarah she
would find pictures of her
brother and send them to her.
Now
we pretty much communicate
through e-mails every day,
Ruth said.
Through
e-mails, Sarah learned her birth
father had married twice and had
two daughters from his first
marriage Beverly Jo Sudol
of North Carolina, and Melody
Hartman-Patrick of Colorado.
Sarah
met her new family in September,
when she flew to the United
States for the first of what she
hopes will be many reunions.
She
was here for 11 days, and three
of those days were spent at my
brother Edwards, house in
Athens, W.Va., Ruth said.
At
the reunion, Sarah met her aunts
and uncles, cousins, and her two
half-sisters.
Everyone
was so lovely, Sarah said.
Never in my dreams would I
have thought that this would be
something that I could do and
have a whole new family.
During
telephone interviews with Beverly
Jo and Melody, both said they are
happy to have discovered another
sister.
Its
been such a blessing,
Beverly Jo said. Sarah is
such a sweetie pie.
She
also said she noticed many
similarities the sisters have.
For instance, the three of
us all like mashed potatoes with
slaw on them, Beverly Jo
said. Its funny we
have that in common.
Melody
said she Sarah have similar
mannerisms. We use our
hands to talk in the same
way, Melody said.
Everyone noticed that, and
we also like to shop.
Like
Ruth, Melody communicates with
Sarah regularly via e-mail.
Were
getting to know each other really
well, she said.
Ruth
said she hopes to fly to England
next spring to visit Sarah.
Melody also is planning to visit
her sister next year.
But
if they cant come, I will
definitely visit them,
Sarah said.
Her
long search over, Sarah said she
doesnt resent her birth
fathers actions.
I
cant resent it, because
lifes too short,
Sarah said. I would not
want resentment to blight what I
have now.